Tuesday, November 17, 2009


*I'm just thinking out loud. No need to be worried about me.

One of the drawbacks of having a strong opinion is that people don’t like people with strong opinions. It seems to happen to me at all my jobs. I go from being the quiet one, to the golden boy, to the uppity problematic negro. I don’t necessarily know why it keeps happening. I don’t think I’m changing that much, but invariably at some point in my employment, there comes a backlash.

I think I’ve reached that point in my current job. Without going into too much detail, it seems that lately I can’t do anything right. Whereas it used to be appreciated when I spoke up, now it’s like please stay in your lane. Where management used to seek me out to get the pulse of the other associates, not it’s like my input is the last thing they want to hear. And it’s not like I’m overreacting. I gave that some thought, and no that’s not it. I’ve tried the aggressive approach, I’ve tried the political correct approach, I’ve spoken up in meetings to no avail. I’ve written intentionally soft emails to no avail. I keep getting the same responses: Thank you for your input, but we’re not going to actually listen to you. Sometimes, they are defensive that I actually had the gall to question them, and sometimes they are downright rude. I mean cutting me off in mid sentence or responding in a snarky manner in email. It sucks.

There’s the backlash. It always seems to hit me. I’m a laid back person, and I don’t really understand how I can go from hero to goat so quickly. I need a new job like yesterday. I don’t like being in a bad mood when I come home from work. I don’t like even giving this place a second thought after I leave the parking lot. And I sure don’t get paid enough to be stressed out. Maybe I’ll try to be just a mindless drone and see if that works. Yeah, that probably won’t do. One thing I’m not willing to compromise is my opinion.


12kyle said...

Been there...done that. Sounds like it's time for you to make your exit strategy. You're not gonna sit and conform like your spineless co-workers.

Ladynay said...

Yep! Shine the resume up, shoot it out, and see what you hit.

Jameil said...

i miss you!! i wish i could be there to make things better. ((hugs)) until saturday.

Ms. Behaving said...

I've been unhappy *for similar reason* @ a job before so I have a pretty good idea what you're feeling...

Granted work isn't supposed to be fun all the time but when your job makes you more miserable than it does happy, it's time to go.

Bottom line, I'm with everybody else...
Put a few finishing touches on your resume and get it out there so you don't have to put up with that nonsense!

Ginae said...

Are you sure we don't work at the same place? In addition to all that I've soooo outgrown the work, the environment and the people at my job. I've been looking and will continue to do so until I am out of there...maybe you should start doing the same.

In the meant time...woooosah...that ish don't work for me but maybe it will for you..I'd suggest yoga for the stress but I know you manly men ain't having really helps though..

Nerd Girl said...

Hmmm...we may have been separated at birth.

Like the others, I feel your pain.

Stay strong, stay true, start looking.

Opinionated Diva said...

From some of the things I see coming from your office, I totally think it's time for you to move on. For whatever reason you have been pegged as THAT GUY. The one people come to for answers when the shyt hits the fan, but the one they don't really like going to. The one who's smarter than most of your co-workers (including your superiors), but the one who most likely wont get promoted.

I guess it's easy to say it's time for you to move on, but pounding the concrete is RUFF these days, so moving on is no easy thing to do. I suggest moving to a different group or different time schedule even.

whatever you's definitely time for some kind of change.

Rashan Jamal said...

@ 12 Kyle - I'm looking. I know that I can't change that much to start conforming.

@ Ladynay- I'm on it.

@ Jameil - yeah, I cant wait to see you either. A whole week!

@ MS B -I'm not worried about fun, but respect would be nice.

@Ginae - I don't know where you work, so I'm not sure. Not going to do yoga, how about drugs? LOL

@ Nerd Girl - true, true..

@ Diva - you ain't never lied on either point.